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Subject: Kindness Despite Being Ill Part 2

Dear APF Members,

I wanted to share a thought when we have bad days and we have pets, do we
ignore them, love them, and pay any attention to them?  Well I have three
dogs and usually I don't feel my best.  They each have their own
personalities, funny things they do but if we don't feel good we may at
times put them aside.  They can sense when we don't feel right, remember
that we never need to get upset with them because all they want is love and
affection when we don't feel right and our approval just as we seek it from
our family and friends. In return by showing this kindness it brings all of
us happiness and some measure of contentment.

Show kindness through loving animals and the living world. Loving animals
and caring for pets is kindness in action. Nothing compels you to care about
beings of another species, especially in a day and age where the tools of
human domination are so powerful. And yet, the very act of loving an animal
and respecting the animal for its own value is an expression of deep
kindness. As well, being kind to the world that sustains and nurtures us is
sensible as well as kind, ensuring that we don't poison the very elements
that assure us a healthy life.

o    Adopt or foster a pet. Your kindness will be rewarded by letting
another being into your life that will bring you joy and love.

o    Offer to pet-sit for a friend who is going away. Give your friend the
reassurance that someone loving and caring will be tending to her pet while
she's away.

o    Respect the species you're caring for. Humans don't "own" animals;
rather, we stand in a relationship of being responsible for their well-being
and care.

o    Take time to restore parts of your local environment with the local
community. Go for walks in nature with family, friends, alone, and commune
with the world that you're a part of. Share your love for nature with
others, to help reawaken their sense of connection with nature.

Practice the kindness effect

o    Practice kindness and generosity toward others. Being out of practice,
being shy, or not knowing how to reach out to others can only be overcome in
the doing, by continually trying until it becomes a natural impulse to be
kind and giving to others.

o    Ask for nothing in return. The greatest kindness expects nothing, comes
with no strings attached, and places no conditions on anything done or said.

o    Meditate to help spread kindness

Extend your kindness to people who are not "in your neighborhood"... Look at
all the wonderful things we have done with Porphyria Awareness Week Local,
National Media, we shared this with Dr's, family friends, neighbors, maybe
we went the extra mile got out of our comfort zone to spread the word.

"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle". Attributed to
Plato, He was mentioned in this book I was just reading~ this saying is
recognition that everyone is undergoing some challenge or other in their
lives and that sometimes, it's all too easy for us to lose sight of that
when embroiled in our own problems or anger against them. Before committing
an action that might impact another person negatively, ask yourself a simple
question: "Is this kind?" If you cannot answer this in the affirmative, this
is a reminder to change your action and approach immediately.

o    Even where you're feeling at your very worst, remember that other
people are also feeling uncertainty, pain, hardship, sadness,
disappointment, and loss. In no way does this belittle your own feelings but
it does allow you to realize that people often react from their hurt and
pain rather than from their whole self, and kindness is the key to seeing
past the raging emotions and connecting with the real person inside.

o    Consider the adage "be cruel to be kind". Think about why this saying
is so popular. Do you think it is an appropriate way to view people's
situations? When you believe that someone truly needs to learn a lesson,
often one involving standing on their own two feet, one of the greatest
kindnesses that you can do for them is to withhold your judgment and to go
the extra mile to do things for them that will enable them to make the
changes or leaps of faith that they need to do, without actually trying to
make that change for them. We're all well aware that we cannot change
another human being. But kindness allows us to enable things to change
around them so that they can make the necessary changes for themselves.
Which means that we don't need to view our act as "cruel"; rather, it
becomes an act of "enabling".

o    If you're neglecting being kind to someone else just because you think
they can cope without your support or understanding, then you're practicing
selective kindness.

"Carry out a random act of kindness, with no expectation of reward, safe in
the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you." These are the
words once said by Princess Diana. The practice of random acts of kindness
is alive and well as a conscious effort to spread more kindness, I know that
this reminder on kindness has helped me immensely in my battle with
Porphyria, how I speak with people how I view myself as a person and most am
I doing the Best that I can each and every day?  Do something today for
someone else your heart will be so happy!

From Amy Chapman AIP Patient


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